Am I Polyamorous Quiz: One Heart, Many Loves?

Last Updated 22.01.26

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This quiz is for entertainment only and cannot determine your sexuality or gender identity. It is not a diagnostic tool and shouldn't guide major life decisions. For genuine support with identity questions, please consult qualified LGBTQ+-friendly professionals. Your self-discovery journey is uniquely yours.

What if love isn’t a finite resource that diminishes when shared, but more like a flame that can light multiple candles without losing its brightness? If you’ve ever felt capable of deep romantic feelings for more than one person simultaneously, or if the concept of relationship exclusivity feels restrictive rather than comforting, this polyamorous quiz might offer valuable insights. Polyamory isn’t about casual dating or secret affairs – it’s an approach to relationships built on ethical non-monogamy, where all partners know about each other, give informed consent, and work together to create healthy relationship dynamics. This represents a fundamentally different way of experiencing love and intimacy.

The quiz examines key markers of polyamorous orientation: your feelings about exclusivity and “belonging” to one person, whether you experience compersion (joy from your partner’s happiness with others) rather than jealousy, your capacity for radical honesty and complex communication, how much you value personal autonomy, and your ability to manage emotional resources across multiple relationships. Neuroscience shows that the brain systems responsible for lust, romantic attraction, and attachment can activate independently toward different people – polyamory simply means these systems don’t create internal conflict when directed at multiple partners.

Whether you discover polyamory resonates with your nature or you prefer monogamous depth, this quiz helps you understand your authentic relationship style and what truly brings you fulfillment.

Questions Overview

1. How do you feel about monogamy?

I love the idea of being with one person forever.
It's okay, but it's not for me.
I don't think it's possible to be with one person forever.
Monogamy is overrated.

2. How many crushes do you typically have at the same time?

One.
Two or three.
Four or five.
More than five.

3. Have you ever been in love with more than one person at the same time?

No.
I've had feelings for someone while in a relationship.
I've been in love with two people at the same time.
I've been in love with three or more people at the same time.

4. How important is sexual exclusivity in a relationship?

It's very important to me.
It's somewhat important, but I'm open to negotiation.
It's not that important to me.
It's not important at all.

5. Do you believe it's possible to love more than one person at the same time?

No, I think love is exclusive.
Yes, but it's rare.
Yes, it's possible, and I've experienced it.
Absolutely, and I actively seek out multiple love connections.

6. How do you feel about jealousy in relationships?

It's a natural emotion, but I try to avoid it.
It's something that can be worked through with communication.
It's a sign that you care deeply about someone.
Jealousy doesn't bother me.

7. Have you ever felt like you were missing out on something while in a monogamous relationship?

No.
Sometimes, but I'm still happy in my relationship.
Yes, I feel like I'm missing out on other experiences.
Yes, and I've acted on those feelings.

8. How do you feel about the idea of having multiple partners?

I'm not interested in that.
I'm curious about it, but I'm not sure if I would like it.
I'm open to the idea, but it would depend on the situation.
I'm very interested in having multiple partners.

9. How much do you value independence in a relationship?

I don't value it at all.
It's somewhat important to me.
It's very important to me.
It's crucial for me to have independence in a relationship.

10. Have you ever been attracted to someone while in a committed relationship?

No, I'm completely faithful.
I've had crushes, but I never acted on them.
I've been attracted to someone and acted on those feelings, but I felt guilty afterward.
Yes, I've been in a committed relationship while pursuing another relationship.

11. Do you feel like you have a lot of love to give?

No, I feel like I only have enough love for one person.
I have love to give, but I'm not sure how much.
Yes, I have a lot of love to give to multiple people.
I have an endless amount of love to give.

12. How important is communication in a relationship?

It's somewhat important, but not the most important thing.
It's very important, but I struggle with it sometimes.
It's crucial for a successful relationship.
It's the foundation of all my relationships.

13. Have you ever been in a non-monogamous relationship before?

No, and I'm not interested in trying it.
No, but I'm curious about it.
Yes, but it didn't work out for me.
Yes, and I loved it.

14. How do you feel about your partner being with other people?

It would upset me too much to think about.
I might feel a little jealous, but I could handle it.
I'm okay with it as long as they tell me about it.
I would actively encourage it.

15. How do you feel about the idea of raising children in a non-monogamous relationship?

I think it would be too confusing for the children.
I'm not sure how it would work, but I'm open to the idea.
I think it's possible to have a healthy, non-monogamous family.
I would love to raise children in a non-monogamous relationship.

James Wilson

James Wilson holds a Ph.D. in Psychology from Columbia University, where he specializes in human sexuality research. With 12 years of clinical experience counseling individuals exploring their sexual orientation, he has authored two books on sexual identity development. Dr. Wilson serves on the board of the American Psychological Association's Division 44 and frequently conducts workshops for healthcare providers on culturally competent care for LGBTQ+ individuals.