Cupioromantic Quiz: Love Without Attraction?

Last Updated 22.01.26

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This quiz is for entertainment only and cannot determine your sexuality or gender identity. It is not a diagnostic tool and shouldn't guide major life decisions. For genuine support with identity questions, please consult qualified LGBTQ+-friendly professionals. Your self-discovery journey is uniquely yours.

Cupioromanticism describes people who desire romantic relationships but don’t experience romantic attraction to specific individuals. The term comes from Latin “cupio” meaning “to desire.” It’s like wanting the entire romantic experience – partnership, intimacy, shared life – without feeling that “spark” or “butterflies in the stomach” everyone talks about. Cupioromantics often seek a “best friend plus” relationship with deep emotional connection but without romantic obsession. If you’ve wanted romance without understanding what “falling in love” actually feels like, this cupioromantic quiz explores whether this orientation describes your experience.

The quiz examines desire for romance without romantic attraction (fantasizing about relationships but not feeling “pulled” toward real people), valuing emotional closeness over romantic passion, and difficulty distinguishing friendship from romance without an internal compass of attraction. It also considers whether you seek stable partnership for practical and emotional reasons rather than romantic ones, and feel ambivalent toward romantic rituals – wanting to participate because they symbolize closeness yet finding them awkward without underlying romantic feelings.

Cupioromanticism differs from classic aromanticism (no interest in romance) and demiromanticism (attraction after deep connection) – cupioromantics actively want romantic relationships; the motivation is simply different.

Questions Overview

1. When watching a romantic movie, how do you feel?

I relate to the passion, longing, and romance.
I want that type of relationship, even if I don't feel romantic attraction.
It's cute but not really for me.
Why do people even watch these?

2. At parties, you see couples together. What's your first thought?

I wish I had someone to cuddle with, even just for the company.
I wish I felt the way they seemingly do.
Good for them, I guess.
I'm here for the snacks, not the romance.

3. How would you describe your ideal relationship?

Companionship without the butterflies.
A mix of friendship and some romantic elements.
A deep and passionate romantic bond.
Solo and loving it.

4. If your friend said they had a crush, you would think...

What's that like?
I wish I could feel that, but I'd still like a partner.
That's so exciting!
Overrated.

5. The idea of dates seems...

Fun! Even if the romantic aspect isn't there for me.
Interesting, though I'm unsure about my feelings.
Full of butterflies and excitement!
A tedious affair.

6. You receive a love letter. Your reaction is:

This is sweet! I’d love the companionship, even if the feelings aren't mutual.
I wish I felt this way about someone.
Heartbeats racing!
To the trash, it goes!

7. Your favorite love song makes you feel...

Wistful about having a relationship.
A bit disconnected, but it's a nice fantasy.
Full of romantic emotions.
Next song, please.

8. How do you feel about Valentine's Day?

It's a day to appreciate love in all its forms!
It's a reminder of what I wish I could feel.
The most romantic day of the year!
Just another day.

9. A friend asks about your romantic history. Your response is...

I've wanted relationships but not necessarily the romance.
It's complicated.
I've had some fiery romances!
Romance? What's that?

10. A romantic gesture for you would be...

Sharing a quiet moment together, even without the butterflies.
I'm not sure, but I'd like to find out.
A surprise date night!
Let's just be practical.

11. How do you view marriage?

A commitment to a partner, regardless of romantic feelings.
An institution I wish I felt more aligned with.
A declaration of undying love!
Not my cup of tea.

12. When you hear the word "love," you think of...

Many types of bonds and connections.
Something I wish I could fully grasp.
Pure, passionate romance.
Chocolate. Definitely chocolate.

13. The idea of romance to you is...

Something to be explored, even if it's different for me.
An enigma.
Magical and full of passion.
Overhyped.

14. Holding hands feels like...

A nice gesture of companionship.
A connection, though not necessarily romantic.
Electricity coursing through me!
Sweaty palms.

15. You often daydream about...

Sharing life with someone, romance aside.
What it'd be like to have those fluttery feelings.
Romantic escapades and adventures.
My next meal.

16. When you think about the future, you...

See a partner by your side, regardless of romantic feelings.
Are curious if romantic attraction might ever happen.
Envision grand romantic gestures and moments.
See a lot of solo adventures.

Elena Rodriguez

Elena Rodriguez earned her Ph.D. in Sociology from NYU, focusing on relationship structures and romantic attraction patterns across diverse populations. She directs the Center for Relationship Studies at Stanford University and has pioneered research on aromantic, demiromantic, and other romantic orientations. Dr. Rodriguez regularly contributes to relationship education programs and has developed curriculum materials used in universities nationwide to help students understand the spectrum of romantic experiences.