Quiz: Am I Aromantic?

Last Updated 22.01.26

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This quiz is for entertainment only and cannot determine your sexuality or gender identity. It is not a diagnostic tool and shouldn't guide major life decisions. For genuine support with identity questions, please consult qualified LGBTQ+-friendly professionals. Your self-discovery journey is uniquely yours.

In a culture that treats romantic love as life’s ultimate goal, some people quietly wonder why they’ve never experienced those famous “butterflies in the stomach” or felt compelled to merge their life with someone special. If you’ve spent years trying to force romantic feelings that simply don’t emerge, or if passionate friendships feel more fulfilling than any romantic relationship ever could, this aromantic quiz offers a framework for understanding your experience. Aromanticism describes an orientation where romantic attraction is absent or significantly diminished – but this doesn’t mean aromantics are emotionless or incapable of deep connections. They simply experience intimacy, attachment, and love through different channels than the romantic script society promotes.

The quiz explores patterns common in the aromantic community: whether you possess that internal “romantic radar” others describe, if traditional dating rituals feel like confusing theater, whether your friendships provide deeper satisfaction than romance, if you’ve ever intellectually chosen partners based on compatibility rather than spontaneous attraction, and how receiving romantic attention makes you feel. It’s crucial to understand that aromanticism is distinct from asexuality – you can experience sexual attraction without romantic feelings, just as someone can fall deeply in love without sexual desire. The aromantic spectrum also includes demiromantic, lithromantic, greyromantic, and other experiences.

This quiz simply helps you recognize whether your emotional landscape operates differently than romantic norms suggest, validating that friendship, passion for interests, and other forms of connection are equally meaningful ways to experience love and fulfillment.

Questions Overview

1. What is your first reaction when a friend tells you about their romantic relationship problems?

Try to give them advice about what to do next.
Try to change the subject to something less relationship-focused.
You don't quite understand why they're so upset about it.
You're relieved that you don't have to deal with such problems.

2. You see a couple on a romantic date in a movie. What is your reaction?

You're moved and wish you could experience something like that.
You find it amusing or enjoyable, but don't particularly relate.
You're indifferent to the scene.
You find it hard to understand why people enjoy such scenes.

3. How would you feel if you never had a romantic relationship?

Sad and unfulfilled.
You'd miss it, but life has other pleasures.
Mostly unaffected.
Relieved and happy with the freedom.

4. How often do you develop crushes?

Quite often, it's part of life.
Occasionally, but it's not a big part of your experience.
Rarely, and even then, it's mild.
Never, you don't understand the concept of having a crush.

5. What do you look for in a perfect partner?

Romance, passion, and a deep emotional connection.
Companionship and mutual support, romance is secondary.
Primarily friendship with a bit more commitment.
The idea of a 'partner' doesn't really resonate with you.

6. Your best friend just got engaged. How do you feel?

Happy for them and a little envious.
Happy for them, but you don't relate to the excitement.
You're glad if they're happy, but the engagement part seems unnecessary.
You don't understand why people bother with marriage at all.

7. If you could change one thing about society, what would it be?

Inequality and prejudice.
The pace of life, everything moves too quickly.
The overemphasis on careers and money.
The obsession with romantic love and relationships.

8. How would you describe your ideal Friday night?

A date night with a significant other.
Hanging out with a mix of friends.
Time alone or maybe with a close friend.
Definitely alone, indulging in your favorite activities.

9. You receive a romantic gift. How do you feel?

Excited and cherished.
Appreciative, but it's not necessary.
A bit uncomfortable, you'd rather receive non-romantic gifts.
Confused, you don't get the point of romantic gifts.

10. What's your opinion on romantic love songs?

They stir your soul and resonate with you.
You like them for their melody, not the lyrics.
They're fine, but you don't relate to the lyrics.
You can't understand why there are so many songs about love.

11. Which do you value more in a relationship?

Romantic love.
Friendship with some romance.
Friendship over romance.
Friendship only, romance doesn't factor in.

12. How do you feel when friends talk about their romantic partners?

Excited and interested.
Interested, but you're glad it's them and not you.
You listen politely, but you can't relate.
You find the conversations tedious and hard to understand.

13. Do you fantasize about romantic scenarios?

All the time!
Occasionally, but it's not a big part of your daydreams.
Rarely, your fantasies are mostly about other things.
Never, you don't understand why people fantasize about romance.

14. How would you react to a friend confessing romantic feelings for you?

Excited and hopeful.
Flattered, but unsure about reciprocating.
Awkward and uneasy, you don't want to ruin the friendship.
Uncomfortable, you don't want the friendship to change.

15. How often do you think about finding "The One"?

It's a constant thought.
Sometimes, but it's not a top priority.
Rarely, it's not something that particularly worries you.
Never, you don't believe in or want to find "The One".

16. Which quote resonates with you the most?

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return." - Moulin Rouge
"True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils." - Baltasar Gracian
"The capacity for friendship is God's way of apologizing for our families." - Jay McInerney
"I am not a half. I do not need someone to complete me. I am whole on my own." - Ijeoma Umebinyuo

17. How do you feel about Valentine's Day?

You love it and look forward to celebrating.
It's fun, but you don't take it too seriously.
You're indifferent or feel it's too commercialized.
You don't see the point in celebrating romantic love this way.

18. How do you feel when someone says "I love you" in a romantic context?

Warm and loved.
Pleased, but you don't necessarily feel the same way.
Slightly uncomfortable, but you appreciate the sentiment.
Confused, you don't understand the need for such declarations.

19. Do you feel the need to be in a romantic relationship?

Yes, it's an important part of life.
It would be nice, but it's not necessary.
Not really, you're happy with your friendships.
No, you prefer to be on your own or just with friends.

20. What's your reaction when someone starts flirting with you?

You're excited and flattered.
It's fun, but you don't take it too seriously.
You're indifferent or slightly uncomfortable.
You're confused and would rather they didn't.

Elena Rodriguez

Elena Rodriguez earned her Ph.D. in Sociology from NYU, focusing on relationship structures and romantic attraction patterns across diverse populations. She directs the Center for Relationship Studies at Stanford University and has pioneered research on aromantic, demiromantic, and other romantic orientations. Dr. Rodriguez regularly contributes to relationship education programs and has developed curriculum materials used in universities nationwide to help students understand the spectrum of romantic experiences.