Quiz: Am I Aroace?

Imagine a world where the absence of romantic feelings toward a beautiful sunset or indifference to the idea of “finding your other half” isn’t strange, but simply another way of existing. If you’ve ever felt like an alien among friends discussing their crushes, or wondered why people complicate their lives so much with romance – perhaps our quiz will help you better understand yourself.

What is Aroace?

The term “aroace” (pronounced “aro-ace”) is a portmanteau of two words: aromantic and asexual. But behind this linguistic construction lies an entire world of human experience that has long remained invisible.

Aromanticism is an orientation characterized by the absence or extremely rare experience of romantic attraction. Aromantic people don’t experience those “butterflies in the stomach,” the desire to write love letters, or dreams of a shared future in a romantic context.

Asexuality is the absence or rare experience of sexual attraction to other people. Asexuals may appreciate aesthetic beauty and experience emotional closeness, but don’t feel that specific desire for physical intimacy that most people experience.

It’s important to understand that both orientations exist on a spectrum. Some people are completely aromantic and asexual, while others might be greyromantic (experience romantic attraction rarely or under special circumstances) or demisexual (experience sexual attraction only after forming a deep emotional bond).

Aroace people make up less than 1% of the population, making them one of the least visible minorities. But invisibility doesn’t mean non-existence – society simply lacked the language to describe this experience for a long time.

What Is This Quiz About?

Our “Am I Aroace?” quiz isn’t designed to diagnose you or slap a label on you. It’s a tool for self-discovery that will help you explore your own feelings and experiences through the lens of aroace experience.

The quiz is based on real stories and experiences of people from the aroace community. Each question is carefully crafted to identify patterns characteristic of the aromantic-asexual spectrum. We analyze your relationship to:

• Romantic gestures and rituals
• Physical intimacy and its meaning
• Social expectations regarding relationships
• Your comfort with your own identity

Remember: quiz results are the beginning of a journey, not the final destination. They might prompt further reflection, reading literature, or connecting with the community.

5 Signs You Might Be Aroace (On Which This Quiz Is Based)

These signs aren’t diagnostic criteria, but rather experience markers that resonate with most aroace people. If you recognize yourself in several of them, it might be worth exploring this part of your identity more deeply. Remember: only you can determine your orientation, and the quiz merely helps structure your thoughts.

1. Romantic Scenes in Movies Cause Bewilderment, Not Tenderness

When movie protagonists suddenly rush into each other’s arms in the rain, you think: “But they’ll get soaked and catch cold!” Romantic gestures seem like illogical theatrical performances to you. You genuinely don’t understand why people spend enormous amounts on weddings or why someone would spend hours choosing the perfect Valentine’s Day gift.

This sign reflects a fundamental difference in world perception: where others see expressions of deep feelings, you see social constructs and impractical behavior.

2. The Concept of “Falling in Love” Is as Abstract to You as Quantum Physics

Friends describe falling in love as “recognition at first sight,” “chemistry,” or “sparks,” and you nod, pretending to understand what they’re talking about. In reality, these descriptions are as vague to you as trying to explain color to someone born blind.

You might intellectually understand the concept of romantic attraction, read about it, even write romantic stories, but on a personal level it remains a foreign experience – like studying a foreign language you’ll never think in.

3. Physical Intimacy Isn’t a Way for You to Express Love

While society insists that sex is the ultimate manifestation of closeness between people, you find dozens of other ways to show your care. Watching a favorite series together, long conversations until dawn, helping in difficult situations – all of this is far more meaningful expressions of attachment for you.

You might not feel disgust toward physical intimacy (though some aroace people do), but it simply isn’t part of your personal “love language.” It’s like offering a vegetarian a steak – not that it’s terrible, just completely not what’s needed.

4. The Idea of “Searching for Your Other Half” Seems Limiting

Society suggests that a person can’t be truly happy without a romantic partner. But you feel like a complete person without needing to find someone to “complete” you. Moreover, the very idea that you’re incomplete without another person seems insulting to you.

Your life is filled with meaning through friendship, hobbies, career, creativity, travel – and none of these spheres requires a romantic partner for fullness of experience.

5. You Create Deep Connections That Don’t Fit Traditional Categories

Your relationships with people are often difficult to classify. You might have a friend with whom you plan a shared future, but without romance. Or a roommate who became your chosen family. These connections are deep, meaningful, and lasting, but they don’t fit under the labels “just friends” or “romantic partners.”

You intuitively understand that human relationships are much more diverse than the binary “friend/lover” system, and you build your connections based on mutual comfort rather than social scripts.

How Does Aroace Identity Affect Relationships?

Contrary to popular myth, aroace people aren’t doomed to loneliness. On the contrary, freedom from romantic and sexual expectations often allows them to build more diverse and creative forms of intimacy.

• Queerplatonic relationships (QPR) are becoming an increasingly recognized form of partnership. These are committed relationships that go beyond traditional friendship but don’t include romantic or sexual components. QPR partners might live together, raise children, plan a shared future – everything usually associated with romantic relationships, but without the romance.
• Friendship often takes on central importance for aroace people. Without the hierarchy of “romantic partner is more important than friends,” they can invest as much energy and devotion in friendships as others put into romance.
• Chosen family is a concept especially important to the aroace community. This is a group of people not connected by blood who create family bonds through mutual support and care.

Aroace people can also be in traditional romantic relationships, especially if they’re not at the extreme end of the spectrum. The key to success in such relationships is open communication about each partner’s needs and boundaries.

It’s important to understand: aroace identity doesn’t make a person cold or incapable of love. It simply means that love is expressed in other ways – through devotion in friendship, care for community, passion for one’s work, love for the world in all its diversity.

Ultimately, the aroace experience is an invitation to rethink what it means to be human and how we connect with each other beyond romantic and sexual scripts. It’s a reminder that there are as many ways to love and be loved as there are people on the planet.