06.01.25
Quiz: Am I Aroace?
Last Updated 22.01.26
○ DISCLAIMER
This quiz is for entertainment only and cannot determine your sexuality or gender identity. It is not a diagnostic tool and shouldn't guide major life decisions. For genuine support with identity questions, please consult qualified LGBTQ+-friendly professionals. Your self-discovery journey is uniquely yours.
The term “aroace” combines aromantic (absence of romantic attraction) and asexual (absence of sexual attraction). Aromantic people don’t experience “butterflies in the stomach” or desire romantic relationships, while asexuals don’t feel sexual attraction despite appreciating aesthetic beauty and emotional closeness. Both exist on a spectrum – some are completely aroace, others might be greyromantic or demisexual. Aroace people make up less than 1% of the population, making them one of the least visible minorities. If you’ve felt like an outsider during conversations about crushes or wondered why romance seems so complicated, this aroace quiz can help you explore your orientation.
Key experiences include finding romantic scenes bewildering rather than touching, perceiving “falling in love” as an abstract concept you intellectually understand but never personally experience, and not viewing physical intimacy as essential for expressing love. The quiz also examines whether you feel complete without a romantic partner and create deep connections that don’t fit traditional friend-or-lover categories. Contrary to myths, aroace people aren’t doomed to loneliness – they build fulfilling queerplatonic relationships, deep friendships, and chosen families that provide meaning without romance or sex.
Questions Overview
1. What attracts you to other people first?
- Physical attractiveness and charisma
- Deep emotional connection
- Intellectual compatibility
- Similar values and worldview
2. How do you feel about public displays of affection?
- Consider it a natural expression of love
- Depends on the situation and level of closeness
- Prefer to keep personal things private
- Don't understand the necessity of it
3. What does 'chemistry' between people mean to you?
- Instant romantic and physical attraction
- Gradually developing deep connection
- Comfortable communication and mutual understanding
- Matching interests and values
4. What role does physical contact play in your relationships?
- Essential part of expressing feelings
- Nice but not necessary
- Only in certain contexts
- Prefer minimal contact
5. How do you react to romantic scenes in movies?
- Get fully immersed and imagine myself in the characters' place
- Sometimes touching, but often feels artificial
- Understand the plot importance, but feel no emotional connection
- Seems unnecessary and distracts from the main plot
6. How do you feel when friends discuss their romantic relationships?
- Want to share my own experience and give advice
- Depends on the situation and mood
- Listen but don't understand their emotional experiences
- Feel detached from these topics
7. What relationship format seems ideal to you?
- Traditional romantic relationship with marriage prospects
- Close friendship that might evolve into something more
- Platonic partnership
- Independent life with strong friendships
8. What's your idea of a perfect day off?
- A romantic date or intimate evening
- Meeting with a close person in a cozy setting
- Active leisure with friends or new experiences
- Alone time with your favorite activity
9. Which metaphor better describes your attitude towards romance?
- A flame that needs to be maintained
- A rare butterfly that's hard to catch
- A beautiful painting in a museum - nice to look at but don't want to take home
- A foreign language you don't want to learn
10. How do you react to flirting?
- Easily pick it up and enjoy it
- Get embarrassed and don't always know how to respond
- Feel uncomfortable
- Don't notice or ignore it
11. What gift would you prefer to receive?
- Something romantic and personal
- Something showing how well they know you
- A practical thing for your hobby
- New experience or knowledge
12. How do you feel when you're single for a long time?
- Strong need for romantic connection
- Occasional desire for closeness
- Sometimes miss company
- Comfortable and peaceful
13. Which of these hobbies resonates with you the most?
- Writing romantic stories or reading romance novels
- Creating things with your hands or engaging in art
- Learning new languages or programming
- Exploring scientific theories or philosophical concepts
14. What compliment do you enjoy receiving the most?
- About physical attractiveness
- About personal character traits
- About professional achievements
- About independence and self-sufficiency
15. How do you envision your future in 10 years?
- In a romantic relationship with family
- With a special person if I meet one
- With a strong circle of friends
- Independent life dedicated to self-development
16. What's most important to you in close relationships?
- Romantic and physical intimacy
- Deep emotional understanding
- Reliability and support
- Respect for personal boundaries and independence
Elena Rodriguez
Elena Rodriguez earned her Ph.D. in Sociology from NYU, focusing on relationship structures and romantic attraction patterns across diverse populations. She directs the Center for Relationship Studies at Stanford University and has pioneered research on aromantic, demiromantic, and other romantic orientations. Dr. Rodriguez regularly contributes to relationship education programs and has developed curriculum materials used in universities nationwide to help students understand the spectrum of romantic experiences.
I don’t really understand, I could be possibly aroace but possibly lesbian. Is there any explanation to that? Because most of the time I don’t feel a spark for a normal relationship even, but sometimes when I do, I get attracted to the same gender. Is there a flag for these conflicted feelings of mine?
Damn, that kinda explains some stuff tho, even if this test isn’t that accurate. Aroacers make a community! >:3
At this point I just wanna talk to my friends and listen to music, ok? I’m happy for them and their relationships, and I’ll cheer them on, but I don’t really understand romance and think it’s kinda complicated. The only relationship I’ve really been in just made me stressed and thinking I wasn’t doing enough. I’ll just stick to my art and books and video games please!
“In a romantic relationship with family” What
Sweet home Alabama
I got likely to be aroace or ace, its like I never show romantic feelings but I just think they’re pretty or handsome or just cute.
The metaphor with the painting “Nice to look at, but don’t want to take home” is so me lmao. I adore the thought of love and sex for other people, but any feelings of attraction, romantic or purely arousal, stroke my ego but I ultimately HATE after the initial boost of confidence. Major ick sooo bad. My result was aroace and I’d say it’s accurate… I don’t want to string people along like a terrible person, so I feel most comfortable not engaging in anything at all. Virgin 27F and I’ve made my peace with my repulsion.
What’s up with Garlic Bread?!?!?!
Jesus loves you! ❤️
Es ist so wichtig, dass zu wissen!
i got told i may not experience romance or sexual attraction but NOTTTT both <3. girl what. i lwky js hate evryone equally so like. no. i only want my cake and garlic bread. no partner. no. bad
lwk feel u there
(sorry for bad grammar) its honestly so confusing for me because I have never felt in any type of way in terms of attraction but at the same time I crave deep emotional relationships. I scored gray/demi but I am still unsure and if that really does describe me. I have taken so many of these tests and have gotten somewhat similar results on each test its either aroace, bisexual or demi romantic/demi sexual. I’m still so confused and often wonder if I even fit into any of these “labels” I still have a long way to go in terms of figuring this stuff out but I don’t think it is going to happen anytime soon. If anyone knows what this might be please let me know I am struggling rn!
I think u should try to find like reliable youtube videos since they do cover a lot of like facts and help
This quiz is clearly made by someone who isn’t aroace, or at least someone who doesn’t understand that wanting to feel loved, and wanting romance aren’t the same thing. I am 100% aroace btw.
yes indeed
I got likely aromantic or ace. I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT I AM I’VE BEEN DOING THESE KIND OF QUIZZES FOR SO LONG AHHHHHHHHGGG first I thought I might be Aromantic, then I thought I might be Asexual, then now I’m thinking I actually might be aroace idkkkk ahhhhhh help me ToT
Me fr fr
i got aroace btw
actually same, i new i was asexual already, but then me and my best friend started dating but it felt the same, and then they kissed me and i felt nothing, in fact it was pretty uncomfortable and they keep being all flirty and i just kinda freez up and im pretty shur im aroace.
I have a boyfriend, but I don’t really like cuddles or feel my heart beat fast… I used to maybe get embarrassed but it doens’t feel.. Idk.. Real? Like.. He just seems like a close friend. I know Im ace, but I’m pretty sure Im more Aro… I actually feel closer to fictional characters than him haha or like them more (the characters)
Hmm… I mean if you don’t feel close to them maybe you don’t like them?
omgggg hazbin hotel? yummyyyyyyyy have you seen S2?
idk. I don’t really feel that either. I’ve always been told ‘Maybe u haven’t found the right person’. They’re always thinking I’m capping (also Hazbin Hotel mention >:3)
Might be aroace idk I’ve just never had a real crush or much genuine interest in romance and especially not interest in sex. Idk maybe /s
Romance is not the best lol
romance sucks imo
lowk took this bc i felt like im like cupioromantic (def ace) and i got probably aroace or ace
Hi aroace!!
Low-key right. I’m greyro/ace
Ace slay
I got gray/demi! Pretty accurate although from what I understand, this test only contains the majority of the aroace spectrum. There are many of these which I would’ve chose most, all, or none of them for my answer. This test is very limited and just because this test said you’re allo, does not mean you arent aroace.
UM WHAT IF MOST OF MY ACTUAL ASNWERS WERE MOST OR ALL OF THEM? XD
hey dude… that’s so crazy..
I’m f*cking with you.
WHAT
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what the f*ck dude.?
what happened with you.
damn this explains some shit
I like this quiz but I know im aroace for sure but it is pretty nice to take a quiz like this
I’m possibly aroace xD
same :3
i liked the test
I think this is kind of off. I am aroace, I confirmed that years ago and there is no doubt in my mind that I have never felt romantic or s*xual attraction to a person, but just because I said that I don’t mind other people having those kinds of relationships, and I am not going out of my way to avoid feeling them myself (Mostly because I know I can’t) it thinks that my results “suggest I might experience either romantic or sexual attraction.” I know these quizes aren’t the best for actually finding yourself, but like still.
I like,
Oh…that’s preppy…