Am I Lesbian Quiz: Friendship or Attraction?

Last Updated 22.01.26

DISCLAIMER

This quiz is for entertainment only and cannot determine your sexuality or gender identity. It is not a diagnostic tool and shouldn't guide major life decisions. For genuine support with identity questions, please consult qualified LGBTQ+-friendly professionals. Your self-discovery journey is uniquely yours.

A lesbian is a woman who experiences romantic, emotional, and/or sexual attraction predominantly or exclusively to other women. From a scientific perspective, lesbian orientation is a natural variant in the spectrum of human sexuality, formed through complex interactions of biological, psychological, and social factors. It’s not a choice and not a phase – it’s an integral part of personality. This lesbian quiz can help you explore your feelings and better understand your orientation.

Common signs the quiz evaluates include deep emotional attraction to women that surpasses interest in men, physical reactions to female beauty like rapid heartbeat or butterflies in your stomach, and romantic or erotic fantasies featuring women. Many women experience discomfort in heterosexual relationships due to compulsory heterosexuality – social pressure to date men “because that’s how it should be.” The quiz also considers your connection with LGBTQ+ culture and whether past “friendships” may have involved romantic feelings.

Sexual orientation exists on a spectrum, and some women recognize their attraction early while others realize it after years of heterosexual relationships. If you’re questioning your orientation, this quiz offers a structured approach to self-analysis and can help you ask yourself the right questions.

Questions Overview

1. When looking at your friend's wedding photos, what first catches your attention?
  1. How beautifully the bride smiles at the camera
  2. How well the bride and groom look together
  3. How radiant the bride looks in her dress
  4. The emotions captured in the moment
2. How do you react when a female friend changes her hairstyle or clothing style?
  1. Notice every detail and how it changes her appearance
  2. Note that it suits her, but without special emotions
  3. Feel excitement and want to discuss the change
  4. Wonder about the meaning behind the change
3. When watching women's sports, what do you most often notice?
  1. The grace and plasticity of female athletes' movements
  2. The technique of performing exercises
  3. The strength and determination in their faces
  4. How different it feels from watching men's sports
4. How do you react to kiss scenes in movies?
  1. Scenes with women kissing seem more natural
  2. More romantic when it's m+f kisses
  3. Feel drawn to passionate scenes regardless
  4. Find myself analyzing my reactions to different scenes
5. How do you feel when a girl compliments your appearance?
  1. Feel pleasant excitement and want to continue talking
  2. Just happy to receive a friendly compliment
  3. Feel flustered and slightly aroused
  4. Notice I react differently than to men's compliments
6. How do you feel about your past relationships with men?
  1. Felt something was missing but couldn't identify what
  2. It felt natural and pleasant
  3. The physical connection felt different than with women
  4. Keep analyzing my feelings in those relationships
7. Which scenes in romantic movies evoke the strongest emotional response?
  1. Moments of close friendship between women
  2. Classic romantic scenes between m+f
  3. Intimate emotional moments between characters
  4. Find myself drawn to unexpected emotional moments
8. How do you react when friends discuss men?
  1. Can't relate to their excitement, though I try
  2. Eagerly participate in the discussion
  3. Join in but prefer discussing emotional connections
  4. Listen but unsure about my own opinions
9. When choosing a dating partner, what concerns you most?
  1. The need to explain my choice of a woman
  2. When a girl shows romantic interest in me
  3. The intensity of feelings regardless of gender
  4. Uncertainty about my preferences
10. How do you feel when you see displays of affection between a lesbian couple?
  1. Feel a sense of connection and understanding
  2. Respect it but feel no personal connection
  3. Feel drawn to their emotional intimacy
  4. Makes me question my own feelings
11. How do you react to flirting?
  1. Get nervous and awkward when men flirt
  2. Naturally respond to men's flirting
  3. Feel more authentic flirting with women
  4. Not always sure how I feel about it
12. Which relationships seem deeper to you?
  1. The connection between women feels more complete
  2. Traditional m+f relationships
  3. Emotional connections with women feel different
  4. Still exploring different types of connections
13. How do you envision your ideal family?
  1. Two loving women, possibly with children
  2. Classic family with husband and children
  3. A loving home with a deep emotional bond
  4. Still forming my vision of family
14. How do you feel in women's locker rooms?
  1. Try not to look to avoid making others uncomfortable
  2. Change clothes naturally without giving it thought
  3. Notice feeling different than in other spaces
  4. Feel somewhat awkward and self-conscious
15. What's your relationship with your femininity?
  1. Complex feelings, not always comfortable
  2. Natural acceptance of traditional femininity
  3. Express it differently with different partners
  4. Still defining my personal style
16. How do you feel about long-term relationships?
  1. Envision life with a woman
  2. See myself with a man
  3. Focus on emotional connection first
  4. Still exploring what feels right
17. How do you react to LGBTQ+ content?
  1. Feel a special connection with lesbian content
  2. Support it but watch from a distance
  3. Relate to various aspects of queer experience
  4. Study it carefully, searching for yourself
18. What do you feel during close contact with women (hugs, dancing)?
  1. Special excitement and desire to prolong the moment
  2. Normal friendly feelings
  3. Notice different feelings than with men
  4. Pay attention to unusual sensations
19. How do you feel about marriage?
  1. Would love a wedding with a woman
  2. Dream of a traditional wedding
  3. Think about the emotional significance
  4. Currently reconsidering this concept
20. How do you feel when someone assumes you're a lesbian?
  1. Internally agree, even if denying it
  2. Surprised and deny it
  3. Consider why they might think that
  4. Makes me question my identity

Morgan Taylor
Morgan Taylor
Morgan Taylor holds a Ph.D. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from UC Berkeley, where she serves as an associate professor in Sociology. With over 15 years researching LGBTQ+ history and community development, Dr. Taylor has published in academic journals and worked as an educational consultant for organizations like GLAAD and The Trevor Project. Outside academia, she mentors LGBTQ+ youth and speaks at conferences, believing that education creates more inclusive communities.

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Alextheomnipansexualperson
Alextheomnipansexualperson
1 month ago

It says im STRAIGHT!!! this this is sooo wrong!! Im pan and omni (mostly omni) yah i like guys but i like girls and people tooooo!!!! This is crazy!

oli
oli
1 month ago

I get uu!!!!!

Ravendala
Ravendala
1 month ago

That’s craaazzzyy!! (that u got straight when ur not) (not that u r omni and pan) im a lesbian (or so it says) but I like guys to im obvi biiiiii!!!

lol
lol
2 months ago

leah pater

lol
lol
2 months ago

is this a real teats

lol
lol
2 months ago

bruh

lol
lol
2 months ago

no i am not taking this twsyt

tia kate
tia kate
2 months ago

i am still descovering myself and think this test helped me but i think i might be pan

Delaney
Delaney
2 months ago

I didn’t know i was gay until i took this test!!

mya
mya
3 months ago

im pan but WOMEN

yummy
yummy
3 months ago
Reply to  mya

You might be omni if you have a preference. I’m omni but wanted to see cuz womeeennnnn. You CANNOT tell me that Billie Eilish, Jenna Ortega, and Emma Watson are not absolutely delicious…

Alex
Alex
1 month ago
Reply to  yummy

I feel u!! the omni life, but women can be hoootttt!!

c00lkidd
c00lkidd
5 months ago

…what is this?

mya
mya
3 months ago
Reply to  c00lkidd

WHAT ARE YOU ?

maimaimaimaimai
maimaimaimaimai
1 month ago
Reply to  mya

Microaggression. just sayin

Rachael
Rachael
5 months ago

skibidi

mana
mana
1 month ago
Reply to  Rachael

ok buddy

Alexa
Alexa
6 months ago

I already knew I was les but this just proves it